Family Mediation: a cost-effective alternative to court action
20 Jan 2022 | Lisa Pepper
Mediation is increasingly important for our clients in their efforts to resolve children and financial issues divorce. This week (17 to 21 January) is Family Mediation Week in the UK, with separating and divorcing couples being reminded of the benefits of mediation to avoid costly court action.
The specialist family mediators at Osbornes have significant experience in supporting separating and divorcing couples in resolving their issues – in person and remotely via Zoom where required.
We have specialists who are leading mediators and highly skilled in successfully mediating for high net worth couples and where the parties own assets abroad.
What is mediation on divorce?
Mediation is a non-court process involving an independent mediator, such as an experienced family mediation lawyer, who facilitates discussions between the parties around the key issues of finances, property and children, and helps them agree a resolution.
Mediation enables you to remain in control; you cannot be forced to agree to anything, and you can call a halt to the process or the session whenever you wish. The mediation sessions can be conducted by Zoom if that is easier for you, although we recommend you and your ex are not in the same home when attending the session.
If you reach an agreement with the other person, your mediator will explain how this agreement can be made legally binding.
If mediation breaks down or you cannot come to a mutually agreeable resolution, the mediator will discuss with you the other options regarding a resolution such as Arbitration or court.
Separating couples should consider trying to agree matters via mediation because of the many advantages over taking court action.
In most cases you will, in any case, be expected to take initial steps to find out about mediation before you can start court proceedings – but you cannot be forced to go down this route.
It’s important to bear in mind that even if you would prefer mediation, your ex may resist – in which case it is not an option (unless they change their mind).
What’s the benefit of family mediation?
Mediation is all about maintaining communication and working to resolve issues directly with the help of a neutral, impartial mediator. The key benefits of family mediation include:
- Mediation is significantly cheaper than going to court
- It is far quicker and less stressful than going to court
- You maintain control, rather than relinquishing control to a family Judge who makes the final decisions.
- Mediation takes place in a safe environment. This means you do not even have to be in the same room as the other party if you feel unsafe.
- Mediation is a flexible process. Court proceedings are inflexible with strict rules as to the process and the deadlines.
How we can help
We have highly skilled mediators who can talk you through the process and help you avoid expensive and potentially long-running court proceedings. Two of our mediators are ranked in Band 1 in Chambers and Partners for Family Alternative Dispute Resolution Services and Band 2 in The Legal 500. Lisa Pepper is also a collaborative lawyer and David Leadercramer is an Arbitrator and Private FDR Judge.
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