Navigating Divorce, Child Arrangements, and the Jewish Festivals: A Guide for Jewish Couples
Hannah Goldstein
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Going through a divorce is challenging enough, but when you’re a Jewish couple with differing levels of religious observance, planning for the upcoming Jewish festivals can feel particularly challenging—especially when children are involved. Here are some tips for managing this difficult time.
Focus on Your Children’s Needs
Your children are likely experiencing a range of emotions due to the divorce and do not want to upset either parent, particularly at a time which is so focussed around family.
Considerations:
- Discuss how you’ll explain the divorce to your children in a way that is age appropriate. There are resources online that can help, such as the Resolution guide to Parenting through Separation and the Only Mums and Only Dads websites.
- Address any worries they may have about celebrating the holidays in a new family dynamic.
- Encourage them to express their feelings and needs openly.
Create a Joint Holiday Plan
Even with differing religious observance levels, you can create a parenting plan setting out how you will deal with child arrangements over this time, and how you will ensure to create a positive experience for your children.
Ideas:
- Decide together which holiday rituals and activities will be part of their celebration, such as attending services or participating in family dinners.
- Consider splitting the holidays; for example, the children can spend Rosh Hashanah with one parent and Yom Kippur for the other and you can alternate each year.
- Make sure to communicate any agreed-upon plans to your children so they know what to expect.
Set Boundaries and Respect Differences
Establish boundaries that honour your individual beliefs while keeping your children’s best interests at heart. This is crucial for minimising conflict and ensuring a peaceful holiday season.
Suggestions:
- Be open and communicate about how religious practices will be observed at each parent’s home and ensure that children feel comfortable in both environments. Be willing to be flexible but respect each other’s preferences now that you are separated. Think about how the transition will be for the children and what you can do to help them.
- Discuss how to handle interactions with extended family and what traditions might need adjusting.
Involve Your Children in Planning
If it is appropriate, and depending on the age of your children, let your children participate in planning for the Jewish festivals. This helps them feel involved and less anxious about changes in family dynamics.
Approaches:
- Ask them what traditions they would like to continue or create new ones that incorporate both parents’ beliefs.
- Plan activities together, such as making holiday decorations or preparing special meals.
- Encourage them to express their feelings about the holidays and any concerns they may have.
Consider Mediation
Mediation can be a powerful tool in navigating separation, particularly when it comes to child arrangements and how to deal with differing plans on how to spend the festival season. Unlike litigation, mediation promotes collaboration and can help you reach agreements that respect both parents’ beliefs and traditions.
Benefits of Mediation:
- Control Over Outcomes: In mediation, both parents have a say in the decisions, which often leads to more satisfactory arrangements for everyone involved, particularly your children.
- Preserving Relationships: Mediation fosters a cooperative environment, which is essential for maintaining a working relationship as co-parents.
- Flexibility: You can create arrangements that are tailored to your family’s unique needs, including scheduling for the Jewish festivals.
If you are struggling to reach agreement with your ex-spouse or partner as to how to deal with child arrangements over the festival period, or you are thinking about separating but are concerned about the impact on your children, get in touch today to speak to one of our specialist family law solicitors or mediators.
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